One of the best things parents can do is give their child(ren) a positive sense of themselves. According to kidshealth.org children that have healthy self-esteem are likely to:
- Feel valued and accepted
- Feel confident that they can do what’s expected
- Feel proud of a job well done
- Think good things about themselves
- Feel prepared for everyday challenges
Lately, we have been having issues with everyday challenges, like being around other children in public places. It’s hard seeing my daughter, scream or panic when children come near her. She was not always this way but one incident on a playground involving a little boy knocking her down has made her extremely leery of children.
To help my daughter overcome this challenge we have been focusing on building her self-esteem.
Here are some activities to help build self-esteem in children:
Read books about self-esteem and loving yourself
My daughter loves for me to read to her and there are many books written to boost our early learner’s self-esteem and confidence.
We chose “Love They Fro” by Casey Elisha.
If you have little girls with naturally curly, wavy, or coil hair they will appreciate this book. If you don’t have children with this hair pattern it’s a great read for them as well to understand different textures of hair.
Chores build a child’s sense of self by increasing their competency and they will start to think more logically. Some chores to consider giving a child three and older are:
- Sorting Clothes
- Helping put clothes in the dryer
- Pick up toys
- Waxing furniture
Learning to do things
I use blocks, for example, when we first started blocks, she would get frustrated! She could not connect them and would lose interest quickly. But her father and I continued to work with her, we would show her how to connect the blocks, then have her try it and now she enjoys playing with Legos.
If your child has already mastered blocks, other things like brushing their teeth, using the potty, and dressing themselves are also great things for them to learn.
Let them figure things out for themselves
This wasn’t easy after that little boy knocked her down it changed our daily outings. A simple task such as going to the grocery store became stressful. Anywhere children were present she would cause a scene. I was starting to dread going out with her. I was ready to shelter us away from the world… I have issues with making scenes, too many people in crowded places and when she screams it doesn’t help. I will leave my issues for another day…
However, sheltering us away from the world is not going to solve the problem. Instead, my husband and I have been going out with our daughter daily to help her overcome this challenge. Unfortunately, this has not been easy, it requires a lot of patience but the other day we went to Target and she did well!
She didn’t scream or act skittish when kids would come near her instead she would just move closer to us. She told people “hi” and walked with confidence in front of us. She did it! She conquered her fear.
Part of building self-esteem is letting our children work things out for themselves and now I can tell she feels more confident.
Spend quality time
They may be little but they need our time and to know that we care. Whether it’s reading a book, going for a walk, watching a show together or grabbing a bite to eat spending quality time with our little ones shows them that they matter.
What are some ways you help build your child’s self-esteem?